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TANYA COLE

Contemporary Portrait Painter

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Allowing ourselves to feel ~ an incidental blog post <3

18/11/2018 By Tanya Cole Leave a Comment

You know how we may reach for that drink, or that chocolate, or that cigarette to numb down our feelings? Because sometimes to feel will make us too vulnerable and make us collapse. And we don’t have time for that. Because the thought of feeling…feeling into something, subconsciously makes us think we won’t be able to function. And we are needed aren’t we? We need to be that functioning mother, or father, we need to be the earning functioning person at work, we need to be that in control, functional family member that has it altogether.

But there is a massive consequence to not allowing ourselves to feel. Actually, more than one. When we get to stop ie go on holidays and have temporary reprieve from our usual functioning roles in life…we often get sick. This is our emotions getting expressed in the stillness of being ill. Our bodies way of releasing when we we have been strong for so long. Unfortunately, the mind doesn’t get to play it’s part in connecting the dots between the emotion we avoided with the circumstance that it was linked to. When we get sick…we express a deluge of backlog of emotion and circumstances.

When we create, we get to express, feel, identify with emotions and circumstances in real time. Sometimes as artists (perpetual creators expressing via a specific creative outlet), we can procrastinate and avoid…become ‘stuck’. This is us face to face with opportunity and the usual habit of denying our feelings. When we procrastinate, we are avoiding feeling. Best way to manage procrastination is to JUMP! Jump into the creative expression and allow ourselves to feel. We will be discharging and limiting that pent up build up of blocked emotion and future illness. It takes courage as an artist to jump. But that is what we must do. We then show others who are not in touch with their active creative expression, that there is another way. Another way to live, consciously whilst feeling and often there is a tangible product of our feeling creativeness…a piece of music or art, a play, a sculpture, beautiful poetry or song. It’s another, more healthier connected and immersed way to live. x

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